This time of year often brings a sense of change for us all. If we have children in our lives it is a time for the new term, or perhaps even transitioning into school for the first time. The change in seasons is a reminder too of a transition and a move into the cooler months of autumn.
Supporting children through times of change is an important part of family life. We want to help them to move on with confidence from a secure foundation, and to thrive in the new opportunities and challenges they will face.
How can we help them to do just this? Here are a few ideas…
Talk to them honestly about what changes are coming - we don’t want to present an all positive or all negative view of something. It is far more helpful (and honest) for the child if we acknowledge there will be good and enjoyable moments, and there may be challenges too.
Encourage them to role play out their thoughts and feelings with you, or with their toys. Free play gives them the space to work out how they feel about something, without pressure or judgement.
Don’t talk about something too soon or too much. Starting school starts to feel like a big deal from April when parents hear confirmation of their child’s school place, but actually April to September is a really long time in the life of a young child.
Use books to start conversations about the change, and to explore thoughts, feelings and practicalities.
Involve children where possible in decision making so they feel more in control.
Transitions are an inevitable part of life, and it is good to prepare children from a young age for how to manage them effectively and feel comfortable with change. We can support this through managing our own emotions about transitions, staying grounded where possible, and keeping lines of communication open.